The Allure of Mystery

It seems that everywhere I turn, people list "Mystery" as one of their most coveted and magnetic qualities.

Yet, in our over-communicated culture, few people can actually pin-point what it is and how to cultivate it in themselves.

This post is my attempt to decipher the myths and give some practical advice based on my work, experience and eager observation.

What Mystery is NOT:

- Being deceitful

- Being a mute

- Being evasive

- Being a closed book

Those qualities do not entice or enchant the other person and do not allow for an energy flow.

In fact, they are based on the misguided (but common) assumption that there is to be NO communication in order for one to be successfully mysterious!

Of course, that isn't so.

As I said, most modern women make the mistake of over communicating, being an open book. So, when the desire to be mysterious comes up, they are likely to shut down completely as a knee-jerk reaction.

TRUST ME, I am only writing about this as I myself am a recovering over-communicator.

It is only through the skills I have learned along the way that have allowed the people around me to finally take out their ear plugs. ;)

The quality of leaving people wanting more is, in fact the ultimate allure.

Mystery is derived from HOW you communicate as much as what you omit. Ommission is a careful and discerning art because the goal here is to still maintain integrity. You can be totally sincere, yet have people dying to know more about you.

How To Be More Mysterious:

The first and obvious step is to talk less. Dont ramble on. When we talk, we spill our energy and the magnetic connection between you and the other person diminishes. Talking more than absolutely neccessary comes from an underlying fear that you wont be understood, validated or heard.

Give yourself and your listener more credit. If you from this point choose to communicate in the right way, with more thoughtfulness and discernment, blessing your listener with only the essence-tials, you will be heard, understood and embraced at the very deep, heart level.

This is becuase when we talk less, we still communicate what we need to through our bodies - a loaded glance, a slow smile, a non-challant wave. This contains our energy in a way that makes our messages more potent and magnetic.

French women have perfected this technique - and now you can too.

So, to Summarise:

Instead of releasing the communication energy built up in your body through talking, contain it within by instead expressing your thoughts as feelings through the body - a piercing gaze, a cheeky smile, a suggestive eye brow.

Body talk is WAY sexier - I assure you!

Furthermore, this has the added benefit of helping the other wonder what you're thinking - which too is incredibly powerful.

Seduction is all about igniting the imagination - which is exactly what you'll be doing when you leave some things unsaid.

Good luck and be sure to post your tips and let us know how you go!

With warmth,

Alina x