In our increasing quest for girl-control it's often easy to make men in the 'wrong'.
He doesn't call... he won't commit... he asks you out too late in the week... clearly he's the 'emotional retard' here, right? Not so fast.
Certainly, men still have a lot to learn in the finer points of romance and communication :) However, you can either jar him into further inaction by acting angry and entitled, or you can gently coax out his sweet spot by being the sort of woman he wants to give the world to.
Grrr... I hear you say. 'Why do I have to do all the work again? Why can't men just get a clue??'
Well maybe once upon a time men did have a clue. They called and courted (and yes, Mad-Men style chauvenised) until Feminism stepped in. The pendulum swung the other way, with men being made to feel wrong and guilty for their crimes against us - so all notions of directional masculinity has been bra-burnt out of them, lest we take offence at their further 'wrong doings'.
The modern times are all about finding a balance - between empowerment in our life and work choices as well as our feminine and masculine natures.
And ladies, since we have a few extra communication neurons... it needs to start with us. I promise it's worth it.
So lets begin with a reminder of how male energy works.
He's either drawn to you or he's not. Think about how their anatomy works and you will once again get the picture. There is much you can do to magnetise and inspire him to point in your direction so that this urge is automatic, versus expecting him to give what he's not feeling to give (its like yelling at a limp penis).
So, if a man isn't giving you what you want, it's because he either doesn't feel to; or he would like to connect more but he doesn't know how to because somewhere along the line he too lost a bit of faith in himself... (and would like just a little sweetness and encouragement, OK?).
The reality is, we are angry at men for all the times they couldn't do the 'obvious' and let us down. But us women need to take some responsibility too and learn the 'obvious' when it comes to guys.
Most of us want a man to 'step up'... Take charge and claim us and assert his Masculinity. However, if you want him to be fully in his Masculine, you need to work with that Masculinity... not fight it, like we have been known to.
Along with directionality, drive and dominion - aloofness, detachment and space equally make up the Male force! You need to work with all of it - not just demand the parts that you want.
If you want to get the best out of a man, you need to give him the best part of what makes you a woman - your softness, femininity and warmth. What if, rather than making him feel like a clueless bastard, you treat it as a game where he is your affable love student and you are his wise and omni-potent tutor? Show him how to treat you, how to love in a way that makes him feel safe... and watch his imagination and willingness come alight.
If he really has been misbehaving, don't play games. State it directly and take time out. Do not sulk and be cryptic.. it's immature.
When he 'jerks' you around from time to time, it's probably not his intent. Be in your power and state your boundaries calmly - but don't lose your head (or your self-worth) over it. It's very rare that to torture you is a man's intent. He just wants to do his thing.
The men I speak to are just as confused as we are. The reality is, no one taught us how to really love - our modern lives are largely defined by self-protection mechanisms and a quest to get what we want (rather than to really give).
So if his behaviour is hurting you, be courageous enough feel into what's really going on beneath the surface - rather than buy into his mask of indifference. Sometimes it's wise to know when to walk away - but you will never really know how you feel if your lovability (for yourself first and foremost) is blocked by a cloud of offence.
And no matter what you decide and where you take your connection... Be kind and wish him well. After all, he's learning to love also.
Til next time,
Alina xx
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Friday, September 17, 2010
From Bitch to Sister
Friendship between women is a funny and complicated thing.
Layered with sensitivities and unspoken agreements, it can be a breeding ground for bitchiness and confusion as much as a supportive mirror for our greatest selves.
What is friendship about for you?
Perhaps you see your girls regularly to have a laugh and discuss all matters at hand. You have a great time together and wouldn’t trade them for the world.
It may also be that sometimes a girlfriend or two really annoy you. Of course, you likely say nothing as it’s not worth the fight. 'A lot safer to 'vent' to the others!'
And this is where the break-down in Sisterhood begins.
For every time you utter a word against your girlfriend... resentment awakens in you. Every time she does that 'thing' you dislike... it poisons you further. As she unknowingly continues her actions, you build up a mental case against her until you quietly hate her guts.
Eventually, your annoyance may hit a peak and - after too many wines, you let her have it. And you likely feel entitled - after all, she's in the 'wrong'!
A draining and strung out discussion ensues, with your shocked friend being none the wiser about your frustration and various other members of your group forced to uncomfortably 'take sides'. After much hysteria, the whole thing blows over and is laughed off as a 'silly fight'... until next time.
As juvenile as this scenario may sound, this is an all-too-common construct for resolving arguments. Whether the all-girl playground or 'cut-throat' dating pool, we are sometimes so accustomed to bitchiness as the norm that we seldom ponder the alternative.
Well ladies, here it is:
What if you knew, with every fibre of your being, that your girls had your back. They never tired of singing your praises and made you feel like a Goddess who could fly. And if you did ever goof up, they would come to you first without workshopping it with a million others. You knew they would never speak a word against you and be your greatest cheerleaders - in private and in public.
Nice, right?
Well, this is how my group of carefully chosen girlfriends finally makes me feel. I didn’t think it was possible for women to behave in this way to eachother – but nothing makes me feel more blessed. Simply, I choose to no longer have negativity around me and I invite you to do the same.
Begin with this:
If a girlfriend is bugging you, either let it go or tell her - but the most toxic thing you can seriously do is bitch. I swear it just comes back to you.
Every time you bitch, compete, or backstab... you are undermining yourself and all of the Feminine.
Cut your friend some slack. If it's bugging you, that quality is probably in you too. Take a deep breath and look within - often by taking responsibility yourself, the 'problem' dissapears.
If she is genuinely being difficult - simply and nicely tell her. That is what a friend is actually supposed to do - help us become a better person. If you can't share how you feel with a friend, then who the heck are you hanging out with?!
Sometimes, we do grow apart. That is natural. Be honest about your reasons for continuing a friendship. Sometimes it is not necessary to lose a friend... just readjust their proximity. Remember, you are the average of your 5 best friends. Surround yourself with the people whom you wanna be like. You don't owe anyone anything if they make you feel like shit.
Conduct your friendships in a loving and noble way. Be a Queen, not a fishwife.
We're so much cooler when we pool together. The Feminine expands - the more beautiful you find her, the more gorgeous you become yourself.
And couldn’t the world get a little more gorgeous?
With love,
Alina xx
Layered with sensitivities and unspoken agreements, it can be a breeding ground for bitchiness and confusion as much as a supportive mirror for our greatest selves.
What is friendship about for you?
Perhaps you see your girls regularly to have a laugh and discuss all matters at hand. You have a great time together and wouldn’t trade them for the world.
It may also be that sometimes a girlfriend or two really annoy you. Of course, you likely say nothing as it’s not worth the fight. 'A lot safer to 'vent' to the others!'
And this is where the break-down in Sisterhood begins.
For every time you utter a word against your girlfriend... resentment awakens in you. Every time she does that 'thing' you dislike... it poisons you further. As she unknowingly continues her actions, you build up a mental case against her until you quietly hate her guts.
Eventually, your annoyance may hit a peak and - after too many wines, you let her have it. And you likely feel entitled - after all, she's in the 'wrong'!
A draining and strung out discussion ensues, with your shocked friend being none the wiser about your frustration and various other members of your group forced to uncomfortably 'take sides'. After much hysteria, the whole thing blows over and is laughed off as a 'silly fight'... until next time.
As juvenile as this scenario may sound, this is an all-too-common construct for resolving arguments. Whether the all-girl playground or 'cut-throat' dating pool, we are sometimes so accustomed to bitchiness as the norm that we seldom ponder the alternative.
Well ladies, here it is:
What if you knew, with every fibre of your being, that your girls had your back. They never tired of singing your praises and made you feel like a Goddess who could fly. And if you did ever goof up, they would come to you first without workshopping it with a million others. You knew they would never speak a word against you and be your greatest cheerleaders - in private and in public.
Nice, right?
Well, this is how my group of carefully chosen girlfriends finally makes me feel. I didn’t think it was possible for women to behave in this way to eachother – but nothing makes me feel more blessed. Simply, I choose to no longer have negativity around me and I invite you to do the same.
Begin with this:
If a girlfriend is bugging you, either let it go or tell her - but the most toxic thing you can seriously do is bitch. I swear it just comes back to you.
Every time you bitch, compete, or backstab... you are undermining yourself and all of the Feminine.
Cut your friend some slack. If it's bugging you, that quality is probably in you too. Take a deep breath and look within - often by taking responsibility yourself, the 'problem' dissapears.
If she is genuinely being difficult - simply and nicely tell her. That is what a friend is actually supposed to do - help us become a better person. If you can't share how you feel with a friend, then who the heck are you hanging out with?!
Sometimes, we do grow apart. That is natural. Be honest about your reasons for continuing a friendship. Sometimes it is not necessary to lose a friend... just readjust their proximity. Remember, you are the average of your 5 best friends. Surround yourself with the people whom you wanna be like. You don't owe anyone anything if they make you feel like shit.
Conduct your friendships in a loving and noble way. Be a Queen, not a fishwife.
We're so much cooler when we pool together. The Feminine expands - the more beautiful you find her, the more gorgeous you become yourself.
And couldn’t the world get a little more gorgeous?
With love,
Alina xx
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Lust vs Love - How Can You Tell?
We all want to feel the butterflies.
That feeling of our eyes and bodies belonging solely to another, where even the finest specimen leaves our head unturned.
I too have longed to lose myself in pining - euphoric moments of togetherness evolving to an elated crash as separation finally arrives.
Welcome to the world of lust, where romantic assessments are based on feeling and an 'unseen' energy vs character and togetherness.
Lust feels amazing - and not just in the loins. It is a feeling of desiring someone wholeheartedly with your body, including your heart. It is like taking a happy drug where you feel blissful in their presence... You feel bigger, better, stronger... indeed, it feels very much like falling in love.
So how do you know that you are not?
Because love awakens our desire to give, whilst lust triggers our compulsion to take. With lust, we WANT them, crave our fix. Their presence - or lack of - greatly influences our mood.
We don't seem to care whether they even care - whether they are on time, honest, 'get' our job or like our friends. Whilst those things may niggle at us, we conveniently forget them in the elation of being in their presence once again.
With love, it is a more grounded, anchored feeling of sweet knowing that extends its branches into partnership and togetherness. Simply, you're a team. You care about each others work and woes. Your desire is to give, to create happy moments for each other without expecting anything in return. You don't lose yourself when you are with them - you become more of who you are.
It is easy to imagine a future with your love object. There will be a receptive feeling as you picture your wedding, your children, meeting challenges and enjoying old age. Everything feels like it might just work out.
Try as you might to do the same for your lust object, and it feels like they almost want to run from the scene! There will be something in your gut that says 'this isn't right' and even 6 months down the line your visions may feel blurred.
So can your lust object be your love object? Absolutely. If the character and partnership are present. You will be best mates and lovers - as well as a million other incarnations all in the one. Oh, and your love object will TOTALLY give you butterflies...
...it's just a feeling that will grow stronger with time.
If you have a comment or your own lust to love tale, feel free to leave a post or email me at alina@alinabcoaching.com.
Have a beautiful week x
That feeling of our eyes and bodies belonging solely to another, where even the finest specimen leaves our head unturned.
I too have longed to lose myself in pining - euphoric moments of togetherness evolving to an elated crash as separation finally arrives.
Welcome to the world of lust, where romantic assessments are based on feeling and an 'unseen' energy vs character and togetherness.
Lust feels amazing - and not just in the loins. It is a feeling of desiring someone wholeheartedly with your body, including your heart. It is like taking a happy drug where you feel blissful in their presence... You feel bigger, better, stronger... indeed, it feels very much like falling in love.
So how do you know that you are not?
Because love awakens our desire to give, whilst lust triggers our compulsion to take. With lust, we WANT them, crave our fix. Their presence - or lack of - greatly influences our mood.
We don't seem to care whether they even care - whether they are on time, honest, 'get' our job or like our friends. Whilst those things may niggle at us, we conveniently forget them in the elation of being in their presence once again.
With love, it is a more grounded, anchored feeling of sweet knowing that extends its branches into partnership and togetherness. Simply, you're a team. You care about each others work and woes. Your desire is to give, to create happy moments for each other without expecting anything in return. You don't lose yourself when you are with them - you become more of who you are.
It is easy to imagine a future with your love object. There will be a receptive feeling as you picture your wedding, your children, meeting challenges and enjoying old age. Everything feels like it might just work out.
Try as you might to do the same for your lust object, and it feels like they almost want to run from the scene! There will be something in your gut that says 'this isn't right' and even 6 months down the line your visions may feel blurred.
So can your lust object be your love object? Absolutely. If the character and partnership are present. You will be best mates and lovers - as well as a million other incarnations all in the one. Oh, and your love object will TOTALLY give you butterflies...
...it's just a feeling that will grow stronger with time.
If you have a comment or your own lust to love tale, feel free to leave a post or email me at alina@alinabcoaching.com.
Have a beautiful week x
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
He Falls in love with Your Essence
So many of us see a dashing man and set out immediately to capture him - without knowing much more of his virtues, interests or intentions.
We begin to preen, strut and stride to make ourselves as magnificent as possible in the hopes that he will notice us and take the express-lane to being a cozy coupling - when he's barely even looked our way.
The thing is, the Right one always sees us - even when he's shy. He senses us before we even walk into a room and then he cannot take his eyes away. That is the way all Yin and Yang energy works in nature: the Masculine intiates, whilst the Feminine cultivates and completes. If it weren't so, then we would be the ones shooting sperm and the male would carry the baby to term.
However without understanding this, a man's affections that are unreciprocated are taken as a sign of our diminished value. We take it personally and think there's something wrong with us.
But since when do we so righteously assume that every man must madly fall in love with us - or else? Do we faithfully like every single flower that is out there? Indeed, whilst they're all delightful, we have a predisposition to our favourite, be it the sensuous rose, regal tulip or loyal sunflower.
So too, the flower merchant of a man is drawn to your Essence above all else - in an often unexplainable attraction. Remember the teenagers in American Beauty? As Mena Suvari's glamorous Angela pouts and saunters her way through the film, Ricky Fitts can't tear his eyes (or camera) away from the 'plain' Jane.
That is how men fall in love - with the unspoken parts of you... your energy, your way, your aura... and it's entirely independent of your looks, status or temperament. Sure, he may still date you or even have a relationship with you... but he'll never fall in love.
So the lesson is... don't bother pining for men who aren't feelin' your vibe. You won't make him change his mind about you, let alone fall in love with you - much like you can't convince a die hard chocolate ice-cream fan to switch to lemon sorbet. He either likes your flavour or he doesn't - and you're no less yummy for it, ok?
Sure, there will still be tough days in your relationship, but I assure you that this strong foundation of him adoring you (and you delighting in that!) will keep you together and unified through the challenges and complexities of your journey together.
So, stop figuring out how to 'get' a man. Don't do an inventory of his exs' to see what his 'type' is; don't change the way you are in any way - to appear 'softer', more 'classy' or more 'adventurous'.
Also stop also showing up where he'll be looking 'fabulous', with an agenda (read - hope) that he will notice you and you'll live happily ever after (you're a knock-out already! Like he didn't notice...) x
Remember, there is a fabulous man just around the corner - hundreds of them in fact - that will loose themselves at the mere adorable sight of you trying to clean up spilt ice-cream when no one is watching.... and that's the type of man you want.
If you have a comment or a query to share, or a question to ask, please post below or email me on alina@alinabcoaching.com
Much love,
Alina xx
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Own your Uglies
A comment from a wise friend during a crisis of confidence:
"What you are most ashamed of about your appearance is what people find most beautiful about you".
The simple point of this post is this: what you're bumming on in yourself is your precise source of magnetism and uniqueness. If you own this quality instead of judging it, others will be drawn to your vulnerable sensual appeal.
Consider Lauren Hutton's gap-toothed grin, Cindy's mole or J-Lo's juicy bum. Ponder Kate's waifish ways against Nigella's wondorous proportions, Nicole's freckles or De-niro's scowl. Look upwards onto Claudia's height or down onto Tom Cruise's enthusiastic dance moves... the very assets for which they are illuminated and reverred have been a point of ridicule at some stage in their lives. Cameron the Skeletor, anyone?
It is all in choice of word, really. What is 'annoying' to one, is 'dynamic' to another. What is 'fat' to you is 'sensual' to someone else. Perhaps it simply takes some clever 'spin marketing' on yourself to rebrand your 'fat ass' into a 'sensual Venusian posterior'. Remember, words are potent and spread like seed from your energy field into the consciousness of others. Would you like others to label you crudely as you would yourself? People see what you show them. And energy can be percieved by all.
Observe those you find attractive walking through this city and your life. It is those who are not necessarily classically beautiful, but hold themselves unapologetically - almost defiantly - that always hold our attention.
The prettiest girls in the corner are bland at best when they choose to slouch inward and clone themselves on eachother. Sure, their loveliness is fleetingly admired, but they don't arouse our interest in that compelling way that pulls us to discover more.
Whether you are classically beautiful or aesthetically unique matters not. Your attractiveness will always come from how you hold yourself. And that comes from knowing you have something precious to behold.
"What you are most ashamed of about your appearance is what people find most beautiful about you".
The simple point of this post is this: what you're bumming on in yourself is your precise source of magnetism and uniqueness. If you own this quality instead of judging it, others will be drawn to your vulnerable sensual appeal.
Consider Lauren Hutton's gap-toothed grin, Cindy's mole or J-Lo's juicy bum. Ponder Kate's waifish ways against Nigella's wondorous proportions, Nicole's freckles or De-niro's scowl. Look upwards onto Claudia's height or down onto Tom Cruise's enthusiastic dance moves... the very assets for which they are illuminated and reverred have been a point of ridicule at some stage in their lives. Cameron the Skeletor, anyone?
It is all in choice of word, really. What is 'annoying' to one, is 'dynamic' to another. What is 'fat' to you is 'sensual' to someone else. Perhaps it simply takes some clever 'spin marketing' on yourself to rebrand your 'fat ass' into a 'sensual Venusian posterior'. Remember, words are potent and spread like seed from your energy field into the consciousness of others. Would you like others to label you crudely as you would yourself? People see what you show them. And energy can be percieved by all.
Observe those you find attractive walking through this city and your life. It is those who are not necessarily classically beautiful, but hold themselves unapologetically - almost defiantly - that always hold our attention.
The prettiest girls in the corner are bland at best when they choose to slouch inward and clone themselves on eachother. Sure, their loveliness is fleetingly admired, but they don't arouse our interest in that compelling way that pulls us to discover more.
Whether you are classically beautiful or aesthetically unique matters not. Your attractiveness will always come from how you hold yourself. And that comes from knowing you have something precious to behold.
Agree, disagree, have something to add? Please leave a comment below. If you would like to message me privately or have a question about 'up-branding' yourself, please drop me a line at alina@alinabcoaching.com.
Have a beautiful week!
Alina x
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Clean is In
Like every second soul this side of a rabid party season, I have commenced on a detox programme.
Diligent and committed, I rise early, drink a litre of luke-warm water with sea-salt, determinedly hand-squeeze 3 lemons and add a sharp burst of chilli powder to a brownish concoction I faithfully sip on all day. A gnawing hunger is my new best friend and anything tasty is my nemesis.
For what sane reason am I undergoing such quiet torture - especially as my omni-eating reputation rests on this? Why, I once won a pie eating contest! I can eat for both Russia and Australia, outstripping my own father and definitely most sane men in the plate-loading stakes!
Well, the above aren't exactly commendable claims to fame - especially for a Goddess ;) and so, to stay in integrity to my mission, I decided to clean myself out, re-set the energy barometer and break this excessive longing that I have to food.
Now look - nothing wrong with food. Yes, it's a delicious, tasty, hedonistic gift from the Gods. It is the juice that bonds friends, families and romances together. It is a salve for the soul, a tonic for the tired and a proud art-form for the initiated chef (Master-aspiring or otherwise).
However, it may also be that modern man's foibles stem from this excessive focus towards instant gratification at the expense of other things - an over-worshipping of the tastebuds and the compulsion to having our bellies fuller than Hercules may well be at the cost of other inner capacities that enable us all to be more creative, love deeper, speak sharper and act with more significance.
Because you see, the heavy, delicious, cream, chemical and animal laden foods we love to consume clog our chakras and meridiens. And those are the subtle voices of the nervous system and Spirit that help us rise above our problems into a realm more rich with beauty, love and general well-being.
There is a quote that reads along the lines of: "Successful people do regularly and consistently what every one else can't be bothered to".
Indeed, authentic success always doth require some sacrifice - and what is required of us today is to be magical and otherwordly leaders... To heal the planet we must vibrate at a higher frequency.
Rather than be stuffed full, lethargic and hung-over, are we not better to radiate, dance, bounce and shine with health and life-force?
I've even conjured my own version of Kate Moss's notorious quote from late last year :
"Nothing tastes as good as Spirit feels."
Indeed, more people have stopped me on the street since my detox than any other time. A sweet man said he loved my aura. I am super-psychic and know you will call me before you do (just don't ask me the lotto numbers). My mood is happy and up-beat... I am present, clear and patient in my dealings with people. These benefits to me are way more lasting, meaningful and profound that the instant (but yes, I aknowledge - orgasmic) hit of a chocolate brownie digesting in my gut.
Since starting the cleanse, I realise how little food I need to survive and feel satiated. I am shocked at how much I've been eating and consuming unnecessarily... Forget my love-handles - what about my eco-footprint? What about all of ours?
I think I serve others best when I keep myself feeling light (read - slightly hungry). I've found that is when I feel my emotions dancing through me most fully. I like hearing the signals of my intuition, the alert meanings of my thoughts. Lightness in my body is what enables me to be a present, calm and empathetic listener to friends and clients; or a happy burst of femininity to men.
I cheated on my cleanse (day 1) and ate some heavy, greasy foods come dinner time.
BOOM - the Goddess was gone. Within 10 minutes I was in an energy slump and back to my neurotic, chatty and slightly nervous self. The next day, when I recommitted to keeping myself light and clean, my aura expanded and I felt in flow. I was positive, confident and attracting good things and people into my world within hours.
Light eating is nothing new. Yogis do it. Monks do it. Any hilosopher that has made an imprint in the longevity of mankind did it - Jesus Christ, Mohammed, Buddha, Hippocrates, Socrates, Aristotle, Ghandi. I would much rather be in the company of these men, than Kirstey Alley or even Nigella Lawson. These wise sages understood the wisdom and act of love that savouring our Spirit is - above all else.
Do I still feel pleasure from food? Indeedy I do. I appreciate the juiciness of a mango... the fresh crispness of a salad... The wholesome satiation of a fish. I derive just as much pleasure from food as when I used to... it's just different food now.
It feels grateful to re-connect with my body... Eating what I need, when I really need it. In general, we need so much less than we think we do - and having less - of anything - really does make the heart sing stonger.
Do I miss things like cheese and meats? Sort of. I rather find that my mind is naturally focused on something greater - how amazing I feel and what more I am able to achieve when I'm like this. And what a better friend and human being I am to others. At the end of the day, I am simply in tune with the subtle messages of my body. If it craves a pizza, it will tell me and I will have some (although somehow I dont think it will). And if my mind get seduced and sidetracked, I will simply remind it:
Nothing tastes as good as Spirit feels.
And that really is the truth.
Diligent and committed, I rise early, drink a litre of luke-warm water with sea-salt, determinedly hand-squeeze 3 lemons and add a sharp burst of chilli powder to a brownish concoction I faithfully sip on all day. A gnawing hunger is my new best friend and anything tasty is my nemesis.
For what sane reason am I undergoing such quiet torture - especially as my omni-eating reputation rests on this? Why, I once won a pie eating contest! I can eat for both Russia and Australia, outstripping my own father and definitely most sane men in the plate-loading stakes!
Well, the above aren't exactly commendable claims to fame - especially for a Goddess ;) and so, to stay in integrity to my mission, I decided to clean myself out, re-set the energy barometer and break this excessive longing that I have to food.
Now look - nothing wrong with food. Yes, it's a delicious, tasty, hedonistic gift from the Gods. It is the juice that bonds friends, families and romances together. It is a salve for the soul, a tonic for the tired and a proud art-form for the initiated chef (Master-aspiring or otherwise).
However, it may also be that modern man's foibles stem from this excessive focus towards instant gratification at the expense of other things - an over-worshipping of the tastebuds and the compulsion to having our bellies fuller than Hercules may well be at the cost of other inner capacities that enable us all to be more creative, love deeper, speak sharper and act with more significance.
Because you see, the heavy, delicious, cream, chemical and animal laden foods we love to consume clog our chakras and meridiens. And those are the subtle voices of the nervous system and Spirit that help us rise above our problems into a realm more rich with beauty, love and general well-being.
There is a quote that reads along the lines of: "Successful people do regularly and consistently what every one else can't be bothered to".
Indeed, authentic success always doth require some sacrifice - and what is required of us today is to be magical and otherwordly leaders... To heal the planet we must vibrate at a higher frequency.
Rather than be stuffed full, lethargic and hung-over, are we not better to radiate, dance, bounce and shine with health and life-force?
I've even conjured my own version of Kate Moss's notorious quote from late last year :
"Nothing tastes as good as Spirit feels."
Indeed, more people have stopped me on the street since my detox than any other time. A sweet man said he loved my aura. I am super-psychic and know you will call me before you do (just don't ask me the lotto numbers). My mood is happy and up-beat... I am present, clear and patient in my dealings with people. These benefits to me are way more lasting, meaningful and profound that the instant (but yes, I aknowledge - orgasmic) hit of a chocolate brownie digesting in my gut.
Since starting the cleanse, I realise how little food I need to survive and feel satiated. I am shocked at how much I've been eating and consuming unnecessarily... Forget my love-handles - what about my eco-footprint? What about all of ours?
I think I serve others best when I keep myself feeling light (read - slightly hungry). I've found that is when I feel my emotions dancing through me most fully. I like hearing the signals of my intuition, the alert meanings of my thoughts. Lightness in my body is what enables me to be a present, calm and empathetic listener to friends and clients; or a happy burst of femininity to men.
I cheated on my cleanse (day 1) and ate some heavy, greasy foods come dinner time.
BOOM - the Goddess was gone. Within 10 minutes I was in an energy slump and back to my neurotic, chatty and slightly nervous self. The next day, when I recommitted to keeping myself light and clean, my aura expanded and I felt in flow. I was positive, confident and attracting good things and people into my world within hours.
Light eating is nothing new. Yogis do it. Monks do it. Any hilosopher that has made an imprint in the longevity of mankind did it - Jesus Christ, Mohammed, Buddha, Hippocrates, Socrates, Aristotle, Ghandi. I would much rather be in the company of these men, than Kirstey Alley or even Nigella Lawson. These wise sages understood the wisdom and act of love that savouring our Spirit is - above all else.
Do I still feel pleasure from food? Indeedy I do. I appreciate the juiciness of a mango... the fresh crispness of a salad... The wholesome satiation of a fish. I derive just as much pleasure from food as when I used to... it's just different food now.
It feels grateful to re-connect with my body... Eating what I need, when I really need it. In general, we need so much less than we think we do - and having less - of anything - really does make the heart sing stonger.
Do I miss things like cheese and meats? Sort of. I rather find that my mind is naturally focused on something greater - how amazing I feel and what more I am able to achieve when I'm like this. And what a better friend and human being I am to others. At the end of the day, I am simply in tune with the subtle messages of my body. If it craves a pizza, it will tell me and I will have some (although somehow I dont think it will). And if my mind get seduced and sidetracked, I will simply remind it:
Nothing tastes as good as Spirit feels.
And that really is the truth.
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